So the news has been inundated with this controversy over the GAP Model that is “too skinny”. This story pissed me off so bad I needed a day or 2 to think before I wrote about it. She is skinny. VERY skinny. So am I. I am thin. ALWAYS have been. I have the same body shape as my grandma. Same genes. It’s funny that this story coincides with me finishing the Three Day Refresh (cleanse) from Beachbody. I have a lot to say. And you may not like it but Im gonna say it.
The following were just a few of the thousands of tweets that The Gap got for featuring a thin model……
Seriously, @Gap? In what world do people look like this? Perhaps you could select models who represent regular gals & not a skeletor ghost.
@Gap @AndreaKcc Doesn’t the Gap feed it’s models? Seriously she looks ill. Please use healthy looking women in your ads next time.
@Gap that girl needs a cheeseburger
.@Gap This. Is. Not. Okay. Model seriously underweight; promotes unhealthy thin-ideal PLUS normalizes look of #anorexia. I’m #notbuyingit
Now replace the references to being “skinny” with “fat”. Not OK! NOT OK!
Last I checked I live on this planet…and I’m skinny. Social media has had many positive aspects. And some very negative. It gives people a place to hide behind a keyboard and spout mean things off at others that they don’t even know. The tweets above are horrific, sad, mean, hateful, cruel, insensitive and immature. I do not debate your right to free speech. You are allowed to say these things and think these things. I am allowed to respond. My daughter took my “before” picture the day before I started my Three Day Refresh. My husband saw them and said “babe, you cannot put those online and talk to people about losing weight…you’re already thin”. Well I assured him TheRefresh is not about losing weight its about cleaning the toxins out of your body and starting over with a clean eating program. But it made me stop and question my pictures. He did nothing wrong. He’s my husband and Im pretty sure he’s ok with how I look 🙂 More importantly…IM OK WITH HOW I LOOK!
I think his fear was how I would make other people feel who have a weight loss journey ahead of them. I get that. But now Im questioning myself. Why am I afraid to put my pictures online? Is there something bothering me about me? Well….no! Thats the weird thing. Ive written before about body image at my age. I am more confident now at almost 42 with my “old” body than I was at 24 with my perfectly in shape, never had babies, no wrinkles, no cellulite body. I just am. Comfort in your own skin comes with age. I like it. So I was going to post my pictures and screw what anyone else said about me or judged about my body. Whatever. Then I wake up to this Gap Model controversy.
This chick is SKINNY. I mean skinny. She has boy boobs (like me) so it makes her look even thinner. But guess what? There are skinny people in the world. There are naturally, genetically skinny people in the world. They are born that way and believe it or not THEY EAT. Sure theres the people that have eating disorders. Bulemics, Anorexics, Overeaters, Gluttons, a plethora of disorders are manifested through food abuse. But some of us are just fucking skinny. When I was 8 I went to trick or treat dressed as Dolly Parton. I idolized Marilyn Monroe. Those hips and curves and boobies were soooo pretty to me. It was MY personal view of what physical beauty was…..all the things I’d never have. Thankfully I had great parents and good self esteem and was perfectly fine with my boy boobs and little booty. But there were mean people who said a few things to me over the years… “do you eat?” “are you anorexic” “skinny bitch” “eat a burger”. I blew it all off and really just ignored it. When others call you names its a sign of insecurity on their part.
But this model looks to be very young and I don’t know if she has great self esteem. I hope she does. I hope she ignores the haters. I hope she’s comfortable in her skinny skin. She’s pretty just the way she is. As is every OVERWEIGHT person. We were all born with different shapes and sizes. I believe firmly (in my line of work) that we are to treat our bodies as temples (Buddhist ones of course 😉 ) and feed it only healthy things and exercise. You only get one body- TREAT IT AND FEED IT RIGHT! I eat healthy. I exercise. Im thin. And in what world would it be ok if people accosted a fat person in an ad on tv? We would all be up in arms…as we should be! It’s just not nice to make fun of someone’s body. It’s just NOT! Stop for one second and think if that was your daughter people were making fun of. Im sure every single one of those 1,000 tweeters who wrote hateful things to that girl have perfectly proportioned bodies…Im sure they do. But I don’t. And most of the people I know don’t. So on behalf of her and every skinny-ass girl, fat girl, tall girl, short girl, big-boobed girl, no-boobed girl…just be YOU. Be the healthiest version of you that you can be. Judgement is a human thing- we all do it. We are often our own worst critics. But even if JUST for today be proud of the body you have. And screw the haters!! 😉